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Alice Must Have Known

Alice Must Have Known

April 8, 2024 Thom Dempsey

Whenever a conversation goes too far or too deep, it goes down the “rabbit hole.” I’ve heard “Rat hole” recently, but that’s just laziness. The Rabbit hole trope has been used since the mid-1800s, and it’s time to retire it. In mixed audiences of generalists and specialists or mixed-levels (such as Executives and Individual contributors), there is value in keeping a subject to a higher level. There are also appropriate times to “geek out.” Either way, save the bunnies.

Learning: Keep rabbits out of it.


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Agendas – Who Needs Them?

Agendas – Who Needs Them?

April 5, 2024 Thom Dempsey

Unless you are dealing with a complete narcissist, the main reason someone takes over a meeting is because they didn’t understand the purpose of the meeting in the first place. Pre-reads and Agendas can help address a lack of understanding. And, as most people jump from one meeting to the next, it’s easy for some to be unclear on the goals of any given meeting.

Learning: Pre-reads and Agendas are signposts of intention and can help keep meetings focused.

References and Resources

How to Finally Make Meetings More Productive (Re-Release) by Anne Morriss and Frances Frei/Fixable; Type: Podcast


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Not the Same Thing

Not the Same Thing

April 3, 2024 Thom Dempsey

If you haven’t seen Arnold Schwarzenegger’s non-blockbuster classic Commando, you need to stop everything and watch it—or put it somewhere in your queue. It’s best known for using the same extras, which results in the same people dying repeatedly throughout the film. It’s just fun that way.

There is a point here. And it’s the idea of Commander’s Intent. This military term combines strategic direction with the freedom to act. I have long admired this style as it lays out the objective and “mission” parameters and provides the necessary autonomy to the assigned team in the field.

For more insights, pick up the following books:

  • Alex Shootman’s “Done Right”
  • Jocko Willink’s “Extreme Ownership”

Learning: The concept of Commander’s Intent illustrates the blend of strategic direction and operational freedom without over-managing every detail.


Have you leveraged Commander’s Intent? Has it worked for you? We’d love to know your experience.


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Shields Up: How NOT to Approach Feedback

Shields Up: How NOT to Approach Feedback

April 1, 2024 Thom Dempsey

Receiving feedback is incredibly difficult. A very common response to receiving feedback is to dismiss it. Immediately. In some cases, If the employee receiving the feedback believes that their identity is being attacked, then it will not stick unless they release their grip on their identity parameters. Or, and I’m being sarcastic here, work through the below steps (preferably around 2-4 am). For a more in-depth toolkit and understanding of giving and receiving feedback, I recommend picking up the book Thanks for the Feedback by Sheila Heen and Douglas Stone.

Learning: To help navigate feedback blockers, approach receiving feedback as an opportunity to learn more about your identity construct.

References and Resources

Thanks for the Feedback by Sheila Heen and Douglas Stone; Type: Book


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Ghosted Again

Ghosted Again

March 29, 2024 Thom Dempsey

It’s inevitable. A recruiter or contact reaches out to you, and you talk, and then they vanish. There are so many reasons why this can happen. People get busy. Life interferes. Time passes, and then guilt sets in. No contact. No responses. Nothing.

And I get it.

Learning: If we look at the inevitability of AI (Artificial Intelligence) changing every knowledge worker’s role, our humanity will hold us all together.

Also, Note to Self: Do not forget this message.


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Not a Boomer Problem

Not a Boomer Problem

March 27, 2024 Thom Dempsey

AI is everywhere, and it’s affecting our jobs. It’s natural to worry about being replaced by a bot. The best action? Engage with AI to stay ahead. Here’s a simplified approach:

  1. Learn: Read up on AI. Start with articles or LinkedIn posts.
  2. Experiment: Try new AI tools. Familiarize yourself with different applications.
  3. Reach out if you want to know how I stay updated with AI.

Learning: AI isn’t leaving. Adapting is key.


Is AI a concern in your industry? Should it be? We’d love to hear from you.


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Strengths Finder Gone Rogue

Strengths Finder Gone Rogue

March 25, 2024 Thom Dempsey

We’ve all met people who think they don’t have any flaws – not a single weakness. (Or at least, they don’t project any weakness). And we’ve all met people who don’t see how solid they are – how powerful they could be. But only if they knew. I’ve never actually heard of Clifton’s Strength Finder not finding some strengths in people, but the key to Strengths Finder is to focus on people’s Strengths. This can be a potent tool for those who need to hear it.

Learning: Strength Finder is an excellent exercise for a team, but it should not overshadow improvement in all areas.


Does this resonate with you? What are your thoughts on Strengths Finder? We’d love to hear from you.


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Eventually, It Comes Back

Eventually, It Comes Back

March 22, 2024 Thom Dempsey

Blame has no place in business and, specifically, no place in leadership. It’s one thing to seek reasons for mistakes or bad feedback, but finding blame is an entirely different thing. As a leader, if you are looking for blame, always start with yourself. Your team will respect you more and be more likely to emulate that behavior when they make mistakes.

Conclusion: Modeling a healthy demeanor towards feedback says a lot about a leader.

References and Resources

Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin; Type: Book

Brené Brown on Blame by Brené Brown; Type: Video


Does this resonate with you? How do handle receiving feedback? Have you seen examples (either in yourself or in others) where blame has been used to deflect instead of reflect? If so, we’d love to hear from you.


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Some Advice is Easy to Ignore

Some Advice is Easy to Ignore

March 20, 2024 Thom Dempsey

I want to think that you can receive actionable feedback from anywhere. But that’s simply not true. In our busy lives and even busier minds, we only listen to feedback from sources we respect. And like. That’s a mistake. The best feedback comes from places you least expect (and sometimes don’t even respect). It’s a tough balance, but there are people out there who do actually want you to be your best.

Learning: Listen and measure all feedback you get – you’ll be better for it.


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TLDR Strikes Again

TLDR Strikes Again

March 18, 2024 Thom Dempsey

The phrase ‘Murder Your Darlings’ may be unfortunate, but it emphasizes the importance of copyediting and removing unnecessary words from your writing. ‘TLDR’ conveys a similar idea, reminding us that readers often lack the time or patience for wordy or complicated prose.

Learning: If you want to improve your brevity, AI is perfect for that. Try it here.

TL;DR: too long; didn’t read

References and Resources

Murder Your Darlings by Seth Fried/Tin House; Type: Article


Have you figured out any tricks for communicating effectively and taming your wordiness?


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