Blamers Anonymous – How Awareness is Everything

Matthew Furlong

Whenever you run into a stumbling block, it’s easy to look for someone or something to blame. Admittedly, it’s something I struggle with, as well. But, when I find myself looking for blame at that moment, I mentally return to this short video by Brené Brown.

It’s a helpful reminder of what’s going on for me. It merely means I’m uncomfortable with something and looking for someone to pin it on. It’s easier to rage and find a responsible party than to look inward.

Does this ever happen to you?

If it does, watch the above video. It’s 3 minutes of your life. Then, document the root of the problem. That’s right – write it down. What’s the issue, and why are you avoiding it?

I have found that this little exercise can help ground you and quickly move blame into accountability. But conversely, I have seen that not recognizing what I’m doing can escalate a situation entirely in my mind very quickly.