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5 Books on Conflict Resolution

5 Books on Conflict Resolution

I grew up in a house that didn’t have conflict. I suspect I’m not much different from many people. There, simply, was no conflict. No arguments, no fights, and certainly no negotiation.  As I’ve moved into the Corporate sector (and became a father), I realized that I very much lacked in this department. And so for the last year, I’ve dedicated my time to learn more about myself and conflict through some experts in the field. Here’s a list of what…

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Blamers Anonymous

Blamers Anonymous

Whenever you run into a stumbling block, it’s easy to look for someone or something to blame. Admittedly, it’s something I struggle with, as well. When I do find myself at that moment looking for blame – I mentally come back to this short video by Brené Brown. It’s a helpful reminder of what’s going on for me. It merely means that I’m feeling uncomfortable with something and looking for someone to pin it on. It’s easier to rage and…

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Shoshin

Shoshin

Shoshin is a word from Zen Buddhism which means “beginner’s mind”. It refers to having an attitude of openness, eagerness, and a lack of preconceptions when studying a subject, even when studying at an advanced level – just as a beginner in that subject would. The idea is that as an expert, you have a limited perspective – like digging a hole deeper and deeper. As a beginner, you have many perspectives and many ways to view a subject. Whether…

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When Receiving Feedback, Humanize – Don’t Personalize

When Receiving Feedback, Humanize – Don’t Personalize

You are probably thinking that’s a ridiculous title: When receiving Feedback, Humanize – don’t personalize. Of course, you are going to personalize feedback; that’s the whole point of feedback. And I agree with that. But let us be a little bit realistic – do you listen the same way when you hear feedback about yourself as someone else? I would argue that if you are sensible, the answer is no, and that’s what I mean by “Personalize feedback.” When you…

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Book Review: Changing the Conversation

Book Review: Changing the Conversation

With an MS in Conflict Studies and Mediation, Dana Caspersen knows conflict. In the book, Changing the Conversation – she starts with 17 principles and anti-principles that help break down conflict into actionable guidelines. The book doesn’t ask for you to avoid conflict; it only enables you to think about your role in the conflict and how to best resolve it. Dana separates her book into three sections: Facilitate Listening and Speaking, Change the Conversation, and Look for Ways Forward….

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