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Blamers Anonymous – How Awareness is Everything

Blamers Anonymous – How Awareness is Everything

Whenever you run into a stumbling block, it’s easy to look for someone or something to blame. Admittedly, it’s something I struggle with, as well. When I do find myself at that moment looking for blame – I mentally come back to this short video by Brené Brown. It’s a helpful reminder of what’s going on for me. It merely means that I’m feeling uncomfortable with something and looking for someone to pin it on. It’s easier to rage and…

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Winning the Argument: Does Someone Need to Lose?

Winning the Argument: Does Someone Need to Lose?

When I was 5, I argued with my cat and yelled out, “Liar. Liar. Pants on Fire.” Clearly, I won the argument because Cleo stopped what she was doing and sauntered off. So obedient, you know, like all cats. (Or at least, that is how I choose to remember it). Today, I disagreed with a coworker on a particular approach. We both jockeyed to win the argument. She was right. But then I was right. And then she was right….

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Book Review: Changing the Conversation

Book Review: Changing the Conversation

With an MS in Conflict Studies and Mediation, Dana Caspersen knows conflict. In the book, Changing the Conversation – she starts with 17 principles and anti-principles that help break down conflict into actionable guidelines. The book doesn’t ask you to avoid conflict; it only enables you to think about your role in the conflict and how to best resolve it. Dana separates her book into three sections: Facilitate Listening and Speaking, Change the Conversation, and Look for Ways Forward. Overall…

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When Receiving Feedback, Humanize – Don’t Personalize

When Receiving Feedback, Humanize – Don’t Personalize

You probably think that’s a ridiculous title: When receiving Feedback, Humanize – don’t personalize. But, of course, you will personalize feedback; that’s the whole point of feedback. And I agree with that. But let us be a little bit realistic – do you listen the same way when you hear feedback about yourself as someone else? I would argue that if you are sensible, the answer is no, and that’s what I mean by “Personalize feedback.” It is innately easier…

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5 Books on Conflict Resolution

5 Books on Conflict Resolution

I grew up in a house that didn’t have conflict. I suspect I’m not much different from many people. There, simply, was no conflict. No arguments, no fights, and certainly no negotiation.  As I’ve moved into the Corporate sector (and became a father), I realized that I very much lacked in this department. And so for the last year, I’ve dedicated my time to learn more about myself and conflict through some experts in the field. Here’s a list of what…

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